Being stuck in the friendzone just sucks. If you want something (or someone) SO BAD but you never make it to that next level? Never take the leap? Never break through?
Your deepest desire is right in front of your nose, holding a massive red sign that says “Can’t Touch This”. (Daaa da da da…)
It’s the classic symptom of getting sooooo close to your goal and then somehow screwing up real bad.
So – YES – I believe that being stuck in the mothereffin’ friendzone is just another form of self-sabotage. We’ve all been there!
When it comes to business, there are 3 clear sings that you, my friend, are in the zone:
- Everybody loves your free stuff but nobody buys from you
- People tell you how great you are but then they hire someone else
- You get lots of inquires but no sales
Ever happened to you?
It’s awesome that people like you and you should be grateful for that! But the truth is: That’s only step 1! And if you’re not taking step 2, you’re leaving money on the table!
Step 2: finally getting laid paid.
Here are 3 things you need to do to get out of the business friendzone and burn the freaking bridges behind you:
1. Tell people to buy from you
Before you call me Captain Obvious and throw the leftovers of your green smoothie at me, take a step back and look at your business.
When was the last time you actually offered something?
When did you last promote the heck out of your products and services?
When you talk to your prospects: are you actually asking them to buy from you?
You’re running a business, not a charity and people KNOW THAT! It’s not a surprise to them, so don’t wait for permission to get paid!
Especially when you’re not yet dominating your market/industry/the world you need to be proactive and put yourself out there. Captain Obvious has another one for you today: It’s not “you build it and they come”. (yeah, I know…)
2. Stop bartering
It’s tempting to exchange services, but if people approach you, because they want your stuff? You’re leaving big bucks on the table!
You don’t have to say yes and you’re not an asshole if you say no.
The same goes for friend(zone) discounts. I know you love your friends and I do too, but you’re shooting yourself in both feet if you’re always saying yes to them and no to you and your business.
You’re not a selfish bitch for wanting to get out of the friendzone. Especially us ladies tend to give, give, give until we forget to receive. Which leads us to:
3. Get over yourself
As a woman in business, no matter how tough or bad-ass (you think) you are… there’s a chance you have money issues.
When it comes to money and sales you might feel stupid or icky or guilty or greedy or self-absorbed or slimy or unspiritual or whatever bullshit emotion comes up for you.
You need to get over that ASAP!
This is the self-sabotage biggie and it can be a tricky one. But only if you’re not aware of it. So I’m challenging you today:
Look into your money issues.
Do you believe that you’re not worthy of making big bucks or that you have to work until you faint to make some?
Do you believe that every wealthy person is pure evil and should burn in hell in a fire made out of all their paper money?
Are you a rebel who hates capitalism because it’s not fair and there are kids starving in Africa? (raising my own hand here)
Whatever belief it is, it’s holding you back from making real money and keeping you stuck in the freaking friendzone.
So read a book, do a course or get a coach to resolve this.
I mean it: you can do everything right, but if you’re self-sabotaging to a point where you repel money? You gotta get that shit sorted!
(I can recommend “Get Rich Lucky Bitch” by the amazingly practical Denise Duffield Thomas and I just started to read “Money: A Love Story” by Kate Northrup. Whatever you choose, just do something!)
I know all of this doesn’t feel comfortable and you’re not gonna wanna do it. But ask yourself this: how much will it cost me to not do it?
COMM(ITM)ENT TIME! I wanna know from you:
Which specific product or service are you gonna tell people to buy from you?
What is the biggest stupid money belief that’s holding you back and what are you gonna do about it?